Getting it Right with People

Getting it Right with People

Many of us want people around us to change their behaviours and attitudes in dealing with us. Often times, we are frustrated by their worsening mannerisms and their presence steals our own peace away. Well, maybe you can’t change anyone but you can determine how people around you affect your inner peace.

The foundation of a beneficial relationship is acceptance, and that goes without you pretending everyone is an angel. People are more likely to stay with you when they realize their personalities are safe with you without you having to crush them at the slightest provocation from them.

Most times when we admit others into our circle, we do so in our own terms. The toughest field of discrimination is right in our hearts. We write people off before we give them chance to prove they are worthy of our trust and friendship. Ironically, the way to improve yourself is to improve others. To improve others, you must deal with them in the light of their uniqueness.

Not even you want to change before being admitted into other people’s circles; why make such demand on others? Jesus illustrated this lesson with The Good Samaritan parable. Through his ministry, we find all sorts of people in his circle. Remember, the sinful Peter, the Gentile Woman, the Roman Captain, the Samaritan Woman, Zacchaeus the extortioner, the sanctimonious Nicodemus, and Geneserenean Lunatic, the list goes on. He admitted all of these people into His circle without making any demand on them.

» Opening the room for other people’s peculiarities paves a way for us to add various colours to ours and that takes care of boredom largely.

» Admitting people into our spheres, focusing on their peculiarities, switches on the knowledge portal to us. This is the route to an increasing quality of life.

» Acclimatizing to other people’s environment makes you less of a conflict person and more of a peace person.

These do not suggest that keeping personal principles in relationship is undesirable, as a matter of fact, it advocates it. However, there is a great need to learn the value of opening up your world for people to learn from it and vice versa. The fact is people are like climatic conditions, you don’t expect weathers to change for you, and you acclimatize to them. Otherwise, you would be denying yourself a well of peace.

To help people improve, you must see them in the light of their own uniqueness. Effective leadership is largely about listening.

Meditation: You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you. Matthew 5:43-44

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You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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Understanding God: How to Become a Hotcake

Understanding God: How to Become a Hotcake

How to Become a Hotcake

O You who hear prayer, To You all flesh will come.
– Psalm 65:2

In life, business and other pursuits, the value you bring to the table is proportionate to the patronage you enjoy, which in turn determines your greatness as an individual, or profitability as an organisation. No one exists for him/herself alone; we are all made for each other. The same way no company is set up to cater to its own needs alone. Each firm has the consumers in mind, and most of its activities are geared toward soliciting or retaining the customers.

The greatness of an individual is determined by the number of persons he is able to influence, the same way a corporate institution derives its relevance from the number of clientele it is able to serve satisfactorily.

Now let’s bring this home by considering God, the Creator of the universe and everything therein. As of today, the world’s population is estimated to be over seven billion people. And considering that a large percentage of that population acknowledges the supremacy of God and professes allegiance to Him, that means God must be big!

But, mind you, God is not sought for His own sake alone. If anything, most of us seek God because of what we can get from Him, as against what we can give to Him. The Psalmist lends credence to this verity by saying that all flesh comes to God because He hears prayers. We seek God because He is able to meet our expectations. That is why He is much sought after by the seconds all over.

This is a lesson for us. You have to add value to people for them to seek you. The more people you are able to create value for, the more patronage you will get, the more your spheres of influence will increase, and the more prosperous you will become.

You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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Understanding God: How Does God See? (2)

Understanding God: How Does God See? (2)

Here is a conclusion of our meditation on understanding God, particular with regards to how He sees, perceives, analyses and judges a matter.

For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
– 1 Samuel 16:7

Here are the applications of this knowledge about the perception of God to people and things:

In your relationship with God, and in your service to Him, knowing that He is more particular about why you are doing what you do will liberate you from falling into the trap of becoming impressionistic by putting on a show or playing up to people’s expectations of you, as against God’s requirements.

Therefore, when you find yourself in church or other gatherings of believers, the way you dance, the way you worship, what you say, and your general conducts will have a deeper meaning to you, since you are aware that while some people may be impressed by your spirituality or displeased by the lack of it, what they think or say has little effect in the eyes of God who knows the motive behind your actions. And, in your service, knowing that what you do may have no particular impression on God, if it is not done from a sincere heart, can be a liberating factor for you; not minding that people are hailing you for it.

Having a working knowledge of this insight can also help you in the way you live and do things. Knowing that God is never deceived will help you to be true to yourself in whatever you do or say. Even if such does not make you popular among people, you would have derived greater satisfaction from the fact that you are on the same page with God motive-wise. And even if you are misunderstood and vilified initially, staying true to yourself will eventually make you come across as a sincere person.

In your relationship with others, a knowledge of this perception of God will help to put a rein on your saying and deeds toward others, no matter the degree of your intimacy with them. Since you know that God is not particularly thrilled by what you say or do to people, but He is conscious of why and how you say/do it.

If you take God’s perspective into cognisance in all your dealings with fellow humans, you will find that you are less impulsive, less abrasive, more restrained, more thoughtful, and more sincere in your relationships and interactions. And there are no surer routes to maturity than those.

You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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Insights From Psalm 23

Insights From Psalm 23

Our meditation today shall be a line-by-line exposition of Psalm 23.

The Lord is my Shepherd (Who purchased me at a very high price – the blood of Jesus Christ, His Son. As a sheep, I know nothing of myself, nor can take any independent action on my own that will do me much good (Psalm 95:7, 100:3). Therefore, as my Shepherd, He is the One responsible for my feeding, guidance, protection and general well being);

I shall not want (Because my Shepherd, Who is the Owner of the heavens, the earth and all its fullness, ‘supplies all my needs, as they arise from time to time, according to His riches in glory (Philippians 4:13)).

He makes me to lie down in green pastures (He locates and establishes me in conducive environments – in my house, my business, my school, my company, my church, my ministry, and my world in general);

He leads me beside the still waters (He gives me restful means of sustenance that are without stress, pain or any trouble to draw from).

He restores my soul (He renews and refreshes my spirit, soul and body with all the good things they need for health and maximum performance).

He leads me in the paths of righteousness ((Psalm 78:52) So that I do not stray from the right course in my exuberance or ignorance, not because I merit it, but)

For His name’s sake (Because He has the reputation of being The Good Shepherd, who can never abscond His responsibilities nor change His nature from good to bad (John 14:1). That is the reason I am assured that I am in a good hand and that…)

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death (Even when I find myself in dangerous or life-threatening situations that portend evil or great calamity) I will fear no evil (Why?)

For You are with me (Since I am not leading myself anyway, but I am a protégé of The Good Shepherd).

Your rod and your staff, they comfort me (Instead of beating and intimidating me, even when I get presumptuous and behave wrongly as I tend to do from time to time, You only use Your shepherd’s rod to gently guide me back to the right course, without any mark of harm or injury on my body).

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies (Without them being able to do anything to stop me from enjoying the delicacies. Why? Because you are right there watching over me to ensure that I’m safe. While my enemies are only confined to a distance, glaring at me morosely without their being able to do anything to harm me. And they dare not move near, otherwise they will have to contend with You, the Mighty Man in battle).

You anoint my head with oil (of gladness and ability to do all that you have nurtured me to do),

My cup runs over (Because you simply did not stop pouring on me until I am overflowed with the abundance of your goodness).

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me (Not sorrow, not sadness, not disaster, not mourning, not fear, not evil, not grief, not poverty, not frustration, not failure, nor pain, but goodness and mercy shall be my experience)

All the days of my life (that is all the Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays that I live!),

And I will dwell in the house of the Lord (Since that is where He will always lead me to for rest. For He will never leave me in the house of a stranger. Therefore, I am certain of always being in His pleasurable presence during the day (Psalm 16:11) and the secret place of His fortress in the night (Psalm 31:20))

Forever (and ever. That is as long as I am here on earth, and even when I transit to heaven above. Amen).

The Lord is my shepherd;

I shall not want.
He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.
He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil;
For You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil;
My cup runs over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
All the days of my life;
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord

You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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The Pains of Intimacy

The Pains of Intimacy

The Pains of Intimacy

It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves, but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.

After a while, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people. But when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and admire the other person’s good qualities, we get the best of one another. Life is short, and it is up to you to make it sweet.

These are some of the lessons to be learnt from the pains of intimacy. Please take them to heart.

Meditation: Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.Hebrews 10:22

You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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How to Become Affiliated with the Greatest (Part 1)

How to Become Affiliated with the Greatest (Part 1)

How to Become Affiliated with the Greatest

And it was told Him by some, who said, “Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside, desiring to see You.” But He answered and said to them, “My mother and My brothers are these who hear the word of God and do it.”

Luke 8:20-21

Let’s consider what some notable persons have said about Jesus Christ:

“I know men and I tell you that Jesus Christ is no mere man. Between Him and every other person in the world, there is no possible term of comparison. Alexander (the Great), Caesar, Charlemagne, and myself founded empires; but what foundation did we rest the creations of our genius? Upon force. Jesus Christ founded an empire upon love; and at this hour millions of men would die for Him.”

— Napoleon (French General, Politician and Emperor, 1769-1821)

“A man who was completely innocent, offered himself as a sacrifice for the good of others, including his enemies, and became the ransom of the world. It was a perfect act.”

— Mahatma Gandhi, Indian political leader (1869-1948).

“I am an historian, I am not a believer, but I must confess as a historian that this penniless preacher from Nazareth is irrevocably the very centre of history. Jesus Christ is easily the most dominant figure in all history.”

— H.G. Wells, British author (1866-1946)

These tell us that the greatest person, dead or alive, is not the president of the most powerful nation in the world, or the number one person on the Forbes list. Jesus Christ remains the greatest.

Don’t we all love the bragging right of having a relationship with the greats in the land? But none of those can match Jesus in eminence. And, in the passage above, He generously gave us a tip on what we need to do to claim affinity with Him. He said His relatives are those “who hear the word of God and do it.” Now, don’t you want that bragging right? Then do as He says.

You will succeed in Jesus Name!

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