The Other Woman

The Other Woman

After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping alive the spark of love. A little while ago I started to go out with another woman. It was really my wife’s idea.

“I know you love her,” she said one day, taking me by surprise.

“But I love YOU!” I protested.

“I know, but you also love her.”

The other woman my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years. The demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night, I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought it would be pleasant to pass some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday, after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the doorway with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.

“I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway through the entree, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.

“Then it’s time you relaxed and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary – just catching up on recent events of each other’s lives. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed and kissed her good night.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.

“Very nice. Much nicer than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her.

Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn’t be there, but, never-the-less, I paid for two plates — one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant to me. I love you.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying, “I LOVE YOU” in time, and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot always be put off to “some other time.”

– Author Unknown

Meditation: But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Timothy 5:8

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Parenting: How to Make Life Easy for Your Children

Parenting: How to Make Life Easy for Your Children

Here is a lesson in parenting, an insight on how to make life easy for your children such that they d not have to suffer unnecessarily on account of your actions after you are gone. And it is a lesson from the example of Mr Zelophehad.

Then came the daughters of Zelophehad the son of Hepher…And they stood before Moses, before Eleazar the priest, and before the leaders and all the congregation, by the doorway of the tabernacle of meeting, saying: “Our father died in the wilderness; but he was not in the company of those who gathered together against the Lord, in company with Korah, but he died in his own sin; and he had no sons. Why should the name of our father be removed from among his family because he had no son? Give us a possession among our father’s brothers.”  So Moses brought their case before the Lord.Numbers 27:1-5

The second lesson for our meditation from this passage is the legacy of the man called Zelophehad, whose five daughters tabled their case before Moses and the elders of Israel.

The first striking lesson about Zelophehad was that he had a good testimony. See what his children said about him, “Our father died in the wilderness; but he was not in the company of those who gathered together against the Lord, in company with Korah, but he died in his own sin; and he had no sons. Why should the name of our father be removed from among his family because he had no son?”

Zelophehad conducted himself in a proper manner during his lifetime such that his daughters could publicly defend his integrity without anyone disputing them. At a time when Moses and Aaron seemed like the villain and the other priests of Levi’s lineage, led by Korah, felt that they knew better and could commune with God more effectively, Zelophehad did not join them. He respected the authority of Moses and Aaron and refrained from toeing the path of rebellion as his peers. He was man enough to stand his ground and did not allow himself to be influenced by peer pressure or to do what everyone else was doing.

He must have also been a very good father too who allowed his female children to grow in an atmosphere of freedom and respect, without making them feel less human because they were not boys. He must have given them the same affection and discipline he would have invested in raising a male child, that was why they grew up to appreciate themselves and to demand what was theirs in such matured manner.

Zelophehad did well as a father, faring better than some notable father figures in the Bible. He died a righteous man and gave his children the chance to talk. Moreso, he left a name that his children were eager to continue. We should learn from his example.

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How to Turn Disadvantage to Advantage

How to Turn Disadvantage to Advantage

How to turn disadvantage to advantage

Here is an insight on what you can do when you find yourself in a disadvantaged position for reasons not of your own making or out of your control, and how you can turn a disadvantage to an advantage. Lesson From the Daughters of Zelophehad.

Then came the daughters of Zelophehad the son of Hepher…And they stood before Moses, before Eleazar the priest, and before the leaders and all the congregation, by the doorway of the tabernacle of meeting, saying: “Our father died in the wilderness; but he was not in the company of those who gathered together against the Lord, in company with Korah, but he died in his own sin; and he had no sons. Why should the name of our father be removed from among his family because he had no son? Give us a possession among our father’s brothers.”  So Moses brought their case before the Lord. – Numbers 27:1-5

There are three lessons for our meditation from this passage: firstly, there is the forthrightness of the daughters of Zelophehad whom, finding themselves disadvantaged by the traditions of their patriarchal society, did not accept the disadvantage as a fact and bemoan their lot in silence.

By virtue of the traditions, inheritance was supposed to be shared among the male children in the family. But in the case of Zelophehad, he had no male child to whom all his belongings would go. He only had five daughters who were not eligible to inherit their father’s heirloom.

However, rather than resort to murmuring and castigating God and men for their chauvinism, Zelophehad’s daughters stepped out and made a dispassionate case as to why they should be given their father’s property. This proved to be a remarkable landmark in Israel as it signalled a new era in allotting inheritance.

There are certain blessings that can only be released to you after you set out of your comfort zone, challenge the status quo and demand for it.

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The Master’s Vow

The Master’s Vow

The Master’s Vow

In the country of Armenia, in 1988, Samuel and Danielle sent their young son, Armand, off to school. Samuel squatted before his son and looked him in the eye. “Have a good day at school, and remember, no matter what, I’ll always be there for you.” They hugged and the boy ran off to school.

Hours later, a powerful earthquake rocked the area. In the midst of the pandemonium, Samuel and Danielle tried to discover what happened to their son but they couldn’t get any information. The radio announced that there were thousands of casualties. Samuel then grabbed his coat and headed for the schoolyard. When he reached the area, what he saw brought tears to his eyes. Armand’s school was a pile of debris. Other parents were standing around crying.

Samuel found the place where Armand’s classroom used to be and began pulling a broken beam off the pile of rubble. He then grabbed a rock and put it to the side, and then grabbed another one.

One of the parents looking on asked, “What are you doing?” “Digging for my son,” Samuel answered. The man then said, “You’re just going to make things worse! The building is unstable,” and tried to pull Samuel away from his work.

Samuel just kept working. As time wore on, one by one, the other parents left. Then a worker tried to pull Samuel away from the rubble. Samuel looked at him and said, “Won’t you help me?” The worker left and Samuel kept digging.

All through the night and into the next day, Samuel continued digging. Parents placed flowers and pictures of their children on the ruins. But, Samuel just kept working. He picked up a beam and pushed it out of the way when he heard a faint cry. “Help! Help!” Samuel listened but didn’t hear anything again. Then he heard a muffled voice, “Papa?”

Samuel began to dig furiously. Finally, he could see his son. “Come on out, son!” he said with relief.

“No,” Armand said. “Let the other kids come out first because I know you’ll get me.” Child after child emerged until, finally, little Armand appeared. Samuel took him in his arms and Armand said, “I told the other kids not to worry because you told me that you’d always be there for me!”

Fourteen children were saved that day because one father was faithful.

How much more faithful is our heavenly Father! Whether trapped by fallen debris or ensnared by life’s hardships and struggles, we are never cut off from God’s faithfulness. He is true to His character. He is reliable and trustworthy and can always be counted on.

“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; He is the faithful God, keeping His covenant of love to a thousand generations…”

“For the Lord loves the just and will not forsake his faithful ones. They will be protected forever.”

By Daily Encourager

Meditation: God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, – Psalm 46:1-2

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Mistakes Are Opportunities to Learn Something New

Mistakes Are Opportunities to Learn Something New

There was a famous research scientist who had made several very important medical breakthroughs. He was interviewed by a newspaper reporter who asked him why he thought he was able to be so much more creative than the average person. What set him so far apart from others?

He responded that, in his opinion, it all came from an experience with his mother that occurred when he was about two years old. He had been trying to remove a bottle of milk from the refrigerator when he lost his grip on the slippery bottle and it fell, spilling its contents all over the kitchen floor – a veritable sea of milk!

When his mother came into the kitchen, instead of yelling at him, giving him a lecture, or punishing him, she said, “Robert, what a great and wonderful mess you have made! I have rarely seen such a huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage has already been done. Would you like to get down and play in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?”

Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, “You know, Robert, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up and restore everything to its proper order. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge, a towel, or a mop. Which do you prefer?”

He chose the sponge and together they cleaned up the spilt milk.

His mother then said, “You know, what we have here is a failed experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two tiny hands. Let’s go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it.”

The little boy learned that if he grasped the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands, he could carry it without dropping it. This renowned scientist then remarked that it was at that moment that he knew he didn’t need to be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new, which is, after all, what scientific experiments are all about. Even if the experiment “doesn’t work,” we usually learn something valuable from it.

Wouldn’t it be great if all parents would respond the way Robert’s mother responded to him? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all respond to people we manage in a similar manner too by helping someone learn from his/her mistakes?

Meditation: For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity. – Proverbs 24:16

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Teach Your Child

Teach Your Child

Teach Your Child

A six-year-old kid was always complaining of being bullied at school. So the father followed him to the school’s PTA meeting. While at the meeting, the boy suddenly came to the father whimpering that some kid just slapped him.

The father rose from his seat, loosened his belt and beat the poor kid mercilessly like a criminal. When he was done, he handed the belt to the child and shouted, “Now go out there and give twice that to the burger that slapped you!”

All of a sudden, there was pandemonium in the room as all the parents rushed through the doorway to secure their wards before the now angry boy could leave the room.

Since that day, nobody ever touched that boy again until he graduated from high school.

Moral: Teach your child the way of the Lord so that when he grows, he may not depart. But teach him also the ways of the world so that he may live long enough to walk in the ways of the Lord.

Meditation: So the master commended the unjust steward because he had dealt shrewdly. For the sons of this world are more shrewd in their generation than the sons of light. – Luke 16:8

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